I’ve always struggled with a low self-esteem. Whenever someone compliments me, I assume they’re either lying, making fun of me, or just saying it to be nice. But it’s recently gotten really bad, and I’m sick of feeling this way. I want to be confident, and I want to believe someone when they give me a nice compliment. How can I get to that place?
There are often no quick solutions for patterns that have been persistent for years, including thoughts and behaviors associated with low self-esteem. But there is hope. Developing an outward focus can be a first step. We often speak of timidity by saying we are “self conscious” for a reason.
Focusing on ourselves can often make us dwell too closely on our faults and perceived failures. But looking to help meet the needs of others can not only take our eyes off ourselves but also give us confidence that we can impact the lives of others in a powerful way.
However, making this transition from focusing internally to externally is often better when done with someone else. The guidance of a trained professional can be very helpful in developing strategies to bolster our self-image in effective and long-lasting ways.