I don’t understand how people can just go up to others at a social event or in a business setting and just feel comfortable starting conversations. Just the thought of these situations makes me nervous and overwhelmed. I wonder what I’ll talk about, or think that I might go up to the person and just draw a blank and have absolutely nothing to say. On top of it all, I wonder if they won’t like me or find me so boring that they’ll just want to go on to the next person as quickly as possible. I don’t even know how to attempt to feel comfortable when talking to new people.
Some people are more extroverted than others! This helps them in social situations. And makes you feel less than powerful. If you’re introverted, you have to make more of an effort to break out of that shell. Don’t assume that you’re going to fail or do/say something wrong. This is a cognitive distortion that is only harming your—adopt more positive thinking and tell yourself that you’ll be great! And if you make a mistake or do indeed say something “dumb,” give yourself a break. Everyone’s been there.